Dear Ken,

Congrats on your holy desires, responding to grace. There's nothing better than the knowledge and feeling that you've been made right with God, after the sacrament of Confession.

Your last question is a good one, although I'm a little confused as to which woman (or both) you had been civilly married to.

If your [marriage to your] first wife was valid, technically you are now free to marry, since she has now passed on. Nonetheless, since Christ declared marriage to be indissoluble, and you have been living with a woman as your wife while your validly married wife was still alive (if this was so), this needs to be straightened out.

After the sacrament of Confession, if you wish to enter into a valid marriage with the woman, you're civilly united to, I would speak with a good priest on how to do so.

God bless,

Paul